Celebrating Independence Day

http://content.mycutegraphics.com/graphics/lightning/black-lightning-bolt.pngI love Independence Day. For single people I think it carries an added significance- celebrating the absolute freedom of being unattached.

Our society is built on the institution of marriage and “settling down”. I spend a lot of time thinking about what that would look and feel like. But I spend far more time enjoying the life I have free from all of that. My friends, my family, my apartment, creative endeavors, work friends, rescue dog, community in LA– all the things that make my life unique and solely my own– as a single person. One day there may come a time when much of that is shared with someone and everything will be different. For now, it’s mine.

I know from married and engaged friends that once it happens it changes everything immediately and fully. Their friends are your friends. Their house is your house. It’s not easy to march to the beat of your own drum when you have someone to “check in” with constantly, let alone a marriage to tend to or children to care for. You can’t pop out to meet friends whenever you feel like it, stay out too late or shrug off responsibility. My married and engaged friends tell me they look back to the time right before they became attached and wish they could go back for one last hurrah, one last experience of being single and free– to do it all over again. Many of my single friends say they wish they had something consistent and nurturing. The grass is always greener on the other side.

Today I’d like to celebrate the experience of being independent and inspired.

#SFAR

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Song of The Day: No

7449d2d1f94431946bc456d1a296e85b.1000x1000x1Meghan Trainor hits the nail on the head.

My name is No.

My number is No.

You need to let it go!

#SFAR

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6 Tips for Surviving a Breakup

Breakups are an unpleasant and inevitable part of life. In their best form, you come to the mutual decision the pairing “isn’t working out” and part amicably or at least on neutral ground. In their worst form, breakups are earth shattering experiences where you find yourself rejected by the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with and sitting on your stoop with moving boxes. If this applies to you, I’m extremely sorry for your loss. It may not feel like it now, but your life is moving forward and better things are yet to come. If I’ve learned one relationship lesson in my life it is this: if someone tells you they don’t want to be in your life, let them go. They don’t deserve another ounce of you.

Here are 6 tried-and-true methods for surviving and getting through a breakup…

#1. Remove your ex’s stuff from your space. All photos of your ex and items that remind you of him/her need to be removed from your home. Did you always stock his favorite soda in your fridge? (I did). Get rid of it. Give it away. Cute photo from your last vacation? Store it in the closet. If you have items of theirs that need to be returned (clothes, toiletries, etc.) get to the post office and send that shit back. The U.S. Postal Service is your friend. Make steps to re-establish your space as YOUR sanctuary free of imagery or gifts that remind you of them. It’s understandable that this process may be difficult, but your ex is not worth the constant heartache of seeing their photos and personal items- particularly in your own home. You don’t have to forget the memories, but give yourself a break. This step is key and must happen swiftly!

IMG_0091#2. Stay busy. As much as you want to hide under your comforter, this behavior needs to be kept to a minimum. It’s only going to make you feel worse and allow you to obsess over every last word and interaction, which let’s be real, you can’t take back or change. Get out of the house, meet up with a friend, take a power walk, go to a comedy show, go to the movies, cook a meal, call your grandmother. Be open with people you trust, it’s important to be able to express that the breakup has happened and you’re working to move forward. At the same time, don’t wallow. Life is too short. More detailed suggestions on that below.

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Song of the Day: Tous Les Mêmes

Stromae is fabulous, this song is beyond catchy and these lyrics (see translation below) are extremely on point.

StromaeTranslation:

“All you men are all the same
Macho but cheap
A band of wimpy unfaithfuls
So predictable. No, I’m not certain that you
deserve me”

“All the same, all the same, all the same and we’re fed up”

Full translation here.

A most appropriate song for the day.

#SFAR

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Attack of the Gumnut Babies

australian-flag maygibbs_pinI had been dating a guy for about three months, and things had been going reasonably well. That was, until I decided to take him to an Australia Day party as my plus-one. I’d been there with him for about three hours, having fun with him and my friends. In walk two girls dressed like slutty Gumnut Babies. (For American readers, Gumnut Babies are cartoon storybook characters, kind of like a Kewpie Doll.) One streamlined towards my then-boyfriend, who took an immediate interest in her. I brushed it off when the girl invited my boyfriend to join her for a drink, allowing myself to be immersed in conversation with other guests at the party. Cut to 45 minutes later, two people having asked me if my boyfriend was the one sitting with the Gumnut Baby, and I had had enough. Continue reading

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Millionaire Matchmaker is Back!

B4SdbUFCAAAcVf0We’re big fans of Patti Stanger aka Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker. She’s a third-generation matchmaker with lots of helpful advice and zero filter when it comes to doling out relationship advice. This next season, is the EIGHTH season for “The Millionaire Matchmaker”. And we’ve been waiting months for it. From the looks of it, this is going to be a star-studded season. Chilli, from TLC, is a single lady looking for love in one episode. Also a client? Larry Birkhead, former husband of Anna Nicole Smith. It also appears that Sonja Morgan– queen of Real Housewives of New York may be a client as well! This looks like a rousing time, and we can’t wait!

Check out Bravo for more details. And tune in Sunday night at 9:30 ET/PT for the season premiere.

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Aziz Ansari Explains Feminism

Aziz Ansari is a talented writer, comedian, actor and apparently proud feminist. In a recent interview with David Letterman, he spoke about his understanding of what it means to be a feminist and why he thinks it’s important to talk about gender issues, including in comedy. Much of his understanding of feminism he attributes to his girlfriend, saying, “my girlfriend makes me think about those things. She’s a big feminist and I am too”. Go, Aziz!

He also goes on to make some pretty hilarious comments about equality between Beyonce and Jay Z. Check out the interview clip here:

This makes us love Aziz even more, and brings up a very important rule. If you’re going to shack up with a significant other, please make it someone who respects you as an equal.

#SFAR

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Song Of The Day: Shoop

hqdefaultNothing better than… Salt-N-Pepa’s “Shoop”…

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Song of the Day: Chromeo

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Once again Chromeo knocks it out of the park. This time it’s hit mainstream radio. Click through! Continue reading

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How To Pretend You Haven’t Googled Him via Reductress

Screen Shot 2014-04-01 at 8.51.07 PMIf you haven’t checked out Reductress, you should. It’s basically a feminist version of “The Onion” where stories about women and women’s topics are hit head-on with sarcasm and wit. A recent favorite find on Reductress is entitled, “How to Pretend You Haven’t Googled Him”. It’s extremely on point. Click through for the list…

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